aren't kids wonderful?

the more teens I know and deal with the more I understand why animals eat their young!  UGH!

one part of me would be so all over what's going on just like you are K....that kind of crap just pisses me off to no end.  We're having some of the same issues here with an ex-BFF of my 17yr old's and the ca-ca going back and forth is disgusting.  I've already ripped in to both of them for it and you can well imagine that I'm definitly able to get my point across when I'm angry LOL

there is a small part of me though/too that is glad this kind of confrontation is happening now, while I'm able to deal with it and help them through it and make sure it doesn't get too out of hand.  They are learning how to deal with other people who might not be the nicest people in the world...kind of a reality check that it's all not sunshine and happyness out there and that people perceive things differently and can be very vocal about it sometimes - so watch what you do!!

Sounds like DD's friend - The Mouth hehehe - needs a lesson in manners and I definitely agree to calling his mom in the situation happening.  I'm betting he's a rather spoiled thing...gets everything he wants and feels very entitled.  I keep running in to this too and it's discouraging...you try to teach your kids the right thing to do, the correct way to behave, how to react and you get bullies and brats who throw a wrench in things all the time

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Tamena- you make a good point about learning to deal with difficult people and dealing with confrontations. I have been wreaking my brain trying to figure out how dd keeps falling into this situation. DS (14) has his run-ins off and on but dd just seems plagued by it. I keep looking for some life-lesson in it, trying to make sense of it all.  But these kids are like swarms of killer bees or a pack of wolves. They smell blood and descend.

Since learning about all this facebook stuff, the girl bully from last spring has now asked dd to be friends on FB. (I think NOT)Then today, she's  asking dd about all the "details" between dd and the boy. When dd refused, dd said " I don't think I should really talk about it." now this girl is starting rumors/gossip. Will it never end?????!!!!!! 

Just how many lessons in dealing with diffiuclt people must dd go through? Is she just not learning the lesson? Or do these kids just not let up?

they're not letting up

kids are HORRIBLE and we see a lot of it here at our house...

this one says stuff about that one and then another one jumps in to defend the first one who then turns on the third one with a fourth one.

From what I've seen from my friends who have sons, the boys don't see to be so bad about it.  Girls are HORRIBLE!!!  Keep in mind this is in school - what happenes can make or break her high school experience - and remember the crap you yourself have gone through in the past year with the women in town LOL  See?  It doesn't get any better!!

Women are VICIOUS!!  She's a good kid, she's a nice kid and she's a smart kid.  She'll figure it out - a bit of which she already has cause she said no to the bully

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I think I'm just gonna homeschool my daughter until she's 30!  I always joked that having a girl is great (my daughter is 3.5), but that it would probably be rough from about 13-16.  Well after having experiences w/my 9-yr-old stepdaughter's friends and reading some of these posts the homeschooling option is looking better and better and then it's straight to the convent!

I hosted my stepdaughter's 9th bday last weekend and while taking pics, this one 'cute' little friend whispers something to my SD and SD says, "Everyone (8-9 girls), so-and-so has something to ask you."  Then so-and-so says, "Who thinks that blah-blah has a big smart mouth (no, blah-blah is not one of the guests)?"  And some of the girls start raising their hands and adding in their comments and I'm just standing thier in total disbelief that this is happening!!  Then I snap back into reality and let the girls know that we're at a birthday party and we're not going to gossip about our friends. 

I spoke to my SD really quick in the kitchen so as not to make her feel uncomfortable, and  asked her if she knew what her friend was going to ask, etc.  She said no and I'll give her the benefit of the doubt.  I told her really quick not to be drawn in to behavior like that, gossiping is bad to do, mean, rude, etc.  They just start soooo young it's absolutely scary.  If it ever came back to me that my daughter did something like that I think I would be mortified and feel like I failed her in some way.

GotFaith?  You're only worried to 16??  I'd like to suggest you extend that one to "at some point in the future when she removes her head from her butt and becomes human again"

my 17yr old?  Lucky to still have enough decency to still have a bedroom and still have anyone in this house speaking to her UGH! UGH! UGH!  so so so nasty!!  I hate teenagers!

She keeps informing me that she is MOVING OUT as soon as she graduates next June.

Granted this kid has no:

car

license

job

savings

skills

phone of her own

anything that is actually HERS except her iPod and a couple bits of clothing

All along I was like no no no - stay and go to local college and we'll work it from there.  I wanted her to be close - I didn't want her to go so far away cause I always thought we were so tight?

Yeah - uuummm....now?  My usual comment is don't let the door hit ya in the butt darlin.  UGH!!

oh and we're starting a pool once she goes of how soon she's going to come back begging hehehe

this kid has NO clue and most people think she's a pretty good kid....when she's in public or with others she's great - for me or her bio-dad?  not so much.  Can you imagine what these kids who are causing all this trouble are like at home if they're this crappy in public???

and this is the future of our country - sometimes it scares the hell out of me

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KSat - 12 year old kids are going to behave this way whether they are on FB or not. Remember the days of kids passing notes in class or writing things about each other on bathroom walls, etc.

I have two older teens. One is in college. I use it to monitor her activity while she is away at school but to also stay in touch. I'm so lucky to have FB for this reason. My younger child is 16. I have his password and I access his account on a random basis . He also is friends with me on FB. So far it has been a wonderful tool to monitor his activity but also to send him pics of his latest competitive event, etc. etc etc.

My 71 year old mother is on FB on a daily basis. She stays in touch with all her friends as well as her nieces, nephews, kids and grandkids. Since she is homebound, it is fantastic for her. There has only been one time in many years that I have had to tell one of my kids to "get that pic off FB before Grandma sees it!"  :)

When I was a kid, my parents had no idea what was going on in my life. I was a good kid so they didn't have to worry, but there were times in my life where "bad" kids would do things and I had to deal with it on my own. You are not going to stop the bad behavior by not allowing your daughter on FB. The kids are going to do it anyway. However, if you allow her to have FB (and it seems like you may have already), then you get to view and monitor what goes on in her life. I can attest that some times it's very hard, but there are times when it's wonderful. There are many, many good kids out there and you'll witness that via FB. Really.

Just my thoughts...

you got to watch what you post on there.    my daughter has one but mostly with her friends. chatting away. between that and the cel . goodness.